What do you do if your loved one with dementia threatens to call the Police?
In this episode of Practical Pointers for People with a Loved One with Dementia or Alzheimer’s I tackle a difficult question that came in, “What do I do when my mom threatens to call the police?”
Unfortunately, things like this happen more than you might realize. When someone has dementia or Alzheimer's, their ability to think rationally is impaired, as is their judgement. Many people become both paranoid or anxious and angry, which can cause them to lash out at the ones closest to them.
Friends and family may be accused of stealing, mistreating the person and more.
In this case, the person's mother felt the only way to protect herself and her belongings was to threaten to call the police.
If you find yourself in volatile situations like this, it's best to be overly prepared than caught off guard.
Have documentation on hand to show first responders that this isn't a normal domestic dispute but that your loved one has cognitive issues that prevent them from truly understanding what is going on. They will likely make sure there are no signs of elder abuse or neglect (unfortunately that does happen) but if you remain calm, have evidence and can clearly explain what has transpired, you should be able to diffuse the situation.
While no one can change the outcome of dementia or Alzheimer's, with the right support you can change the journey.
– Tara Reed