Another FIRST since my dad passed away – today would have been his 78th birthday.

I was talking to my sister about it and we were trying not to be sad. But there is a loss for those of us left behind, an empty space we used to fill with phone call birthday wishes and cupcakes.

The pivot we found was considering how he would be if he was still with us.  He would likely have been bed ridden – it was fast approaching 7 months ago. He probably wouldn't have been able to speak and would simply be existing… not at all how he ever wanted to live his life.

So today I'll be getting a cupcake and having a personal tribute to my dad – and remember him when he was vibrant and fully the dad who raised me, not the one I watched slip away over the past few years.

Here's to you dad!

– Tara Reed

P.S. This photo was taken in about 1988… time flies but we looked like we were having fun!